How to DM Slide a Girl on Twitter
Twitter (now known as “X” to annoying people) is a window into the soul. People share their innermost thoughts on the social media site, which gives a high-fidelity look at what kind of personality this person has. This makes Twitter work better as a dating website than most. People meet their spouses there, and that requires sending a DM (direct message).
Are you a Twitter user? Do you want to meet your lovely future spouse? Then consider the DM sliding a girl on Twitter! I mean – chuckles – everyone’s doing it!
Try to Get a Follow Back
Women are attracted to your identity – you want to show them what kind of guy you are, which will give them the opportunity to develop interest in or respect for you, or even a crush on you. That means you want her to see your tweets to give her a chance to appreciate your soul and to engage in conversations on the timeline.
Following each other will also make you mutuals, which makes you Twitter-acquaintances. That’s a good first step.
So, to get a girl to follow you back:
- Have as many followers as possible. People feel honored to have bigger accounts follow them, meaning they are more likely to follow back large accounts to become mutuals as a sign of appreciation for the account following them – there’s a sense of locking the follow in. Clout is also just plain attractive to women.
- You can buy followers to inflate this number to make your account more impressive, but you don’t want so many that they seem fake because your tweets get comparatively low engagement.
- Make sure she doesn’t have too many followers. Go for accounts with fewer than 3000 followers or so. The fewer, the better. High-follower e-girls are the digital equivalent of “run through” and are:
- Not worth your time, because they have so many simps competing for their attention already
- Not even likely to notice you because they get so much engagement already.
- Have an interesting timeline. Most of your timeline on Twitter should be your own original tweets, rather than retweets. Post some hot takes and fresh ideas and timely commentary.
At the end of the day, getting a follow-back isn’t a requirement to successfully DM-sliding a girl, but it helps a lot.
Interact on the Timeline
Interacting outside of DMs is a great way to make your DM land better. It breaks the ice, so to speak. But how should
Occasionally reply to her tweets, but only if you have something really good to say. Ration the attention you give her. If you reply to everything just to reply to her, you’ll become a “reply guy” whose engagement she will take for granted – which is like being a simp.
You can like her Tweets occasionally to remind her that you follow her and give her an opportunity to follow you back. Again, ration this attention: You want to give her just enough where you seem cool and aloof and not desperate for her attention. She should want to earn more of your attention.
Again, never force it. You should have several plates spinning at all times, meaning that a misfire with one potential girl never leaves you feeling down or desperate. Don’t get too invested in any outcome!
Make Sure She’s an Adult
Twitter bios often include an age. Make sure there’s not an age below 18 listed there! That would be bad! What are you, Dr. Disrespect? You don’t want to be a not-rich, not-famous Dr. Disrespect, do you?
Sometimes you’ll see an age listed that says she’s an adult. That’s a green light to go for it.
Don’t Get Self-Conscious About it
Seriously, unless you’re actually being a creep, don’t worry about looking weird because you DM slide a girl. Even if she thinks it’s weird, who gives a shit? If she doesn’t reply receptively, just forget about her and move on.
Boomers are out there replying to OnlyFans accounts, publicly, with their real names and photographs. They’re shooting their ridiculous shots like clowns, so why should you feel self-conscious about an innocent DM? The answer is that you shouldn’t. Be bold. He who dares, wins.
Figure Out What She’s Into
What does this girl like to tweet about? What does she reply to? What seems to animate her?
Follow her for a while, engage in some infrequent interaction so you’re not a total stranger, and figure out what makes her tick. When you see an opportunity, shoot your shot and DM her.
What does an opportunity look like? Well, what’s she been tweeting about lately? A great way to open up an exchange is to DM her her own tweet with some of your own commentary. Wait for something that you have something insightful to comment on. Go through her timeline if necessary, as long as you don’t get too attached and psych yourself out. Find common ground, a subject you could get energized about and speak passionately on.
The DM
Twitter might be a dating website, but do not treat it like Tinder: your goal is not to move as quickly as possible. On the contrary, you should take it easy and only send DMs when you really feel like it, not out of a sense of urgency to get romantically close to someone.
So, this first DM you send is important, but you shouldn’t sweat it too much. Wait until you’d see a good topic to mention to his girl, one that would be mutually interesting. Your goal here is to take it slow and establish a rapport, not make her fall in love with you overnight.
As mentioned before, one of the best tactics for DM sliding a girl out of nowhere is linking her own tweet to her and adding some of your own commentary to it. But your DM will ideally be something that you wouldn’t be likely to put in a simple reply to her tweet but would naturally want to DM to her – then the mystery is gone and it’s clear that your DM is a ploy to try and get to know her. So an ideal DM is something a little more personal that you wouldn’t necessarily shout in public.
She makes an observation about something in life? Add your own details to it. Some examples that you can generalize from:
- If she talks about seeing a band that you like, DM her about an experience at one of their shows.
- If she’s dunking on another account in the timeline, share your own story with that person or their corner of Twitter being a dork. Women love gossip.
- If she posts a hot take and you’re also a hot-take haver, DM her about how true it is and add your own analysis.
The sky's the limit. Do what feels right.
What exactly the optimal DM is is determined by what kind of rapport you've established on the timeline already. If you know each other, she’ll be more receptive to your opening DM even if it’s not particularly interesting.
Cultivate Many Options
Your goal with Twitter is to cast a wide net. That means being ok with just making a friend while you keep someone open as an option on the backburner, putting yourself in the position to get lucky but not necessarily needing it. So don’t be pushy; be casual, take it easy, talk about things that are mutually interesting, and ration how much attention you give her.
Any particular DM on its own will probably not result in you getting a gf, but dating is a numbers game, and that goes triple on Twitter. Treat it more like a job application process than courtly love. The mantra here is options, options, options.
Just like you came across your Twitter crush’s account and became enchanted, so too can you become enchanted by a new girl. Why limit yourself? Get as many crushes as possible. It’s time to get crushed!
Also, don’t rely on social media to get that rush of romantic possibility. You should be building options in real life, so that you can put yourself in the position to get lucky by having such abundance that one of your proverbial irons in the fire will end up being a nourishing relationship.
A man with options is an attractive man, and he’s also got the right mindset to be outcome independent if things don’t work out with another girl.
Know When It’s A “No”
Pestering girls doesn’t work. It bothers her, wastes your own time, and can give you a reputation as a desperate creep. Be bold, but don’t put yourself in a position where embarrassing screenshots of your exchange could leak.
Be Outcome Independent
If you want to be the kind of man that women respect and are therefore attracted to, you need to be cool. Being cool means being unbothered, even if things don’t work out the way you’d like. This is a principle in dating, and life, known as outcome independence.
Outcome independence means not letting your emotional state be at the mercy of things always going your way. You’re going to face misfires and rejections, even (especially) on Twitter. That’s ok! Expect obstacles and failures, become amused by them, and move on. If you have cultivated enough opportunities in real life and online, you shouldn’t be fazed by one of many opportunities not turning into romance.
Don’t Be Sexual
If you need this section, you’re stupid. That’s ok: stupid people deserve love too.
So:
- Do not open with anything sexual
- Do not say anything sexual at all, until there’s a very comfortable rapport established and you've tested the waters.
- Do not send a dick pic unless she explicitly asks for one
It’s sometimes hard to sense the levels of comfort online. So err on the side of caution: do not talk about anything sexual until it’s pretty clear that she’d appreciate it. At the very least, doing so will likely sink your chances with her.
Play a Video Game
Is she a gamer? Great! Multiplayer games are great ways to bond with someone without actually meeting them in person, because they’re fun and they involve overcoming obstacles together. This is valuable because there are so few ways to build familiarity together online besides talking.
If there’s no indication that she has interest in video games, don’t invite her to play a game unless you think she’d really want to go out of her comfort zone just for the sake of hanging out with you. In that case, it might actually be a powerful move.
Reach Out When You’re In Town
The world is a big place. This means that most people you meet online will not live anywhere close to you. This is a problem for romance, which usually requires people to be close together.
Don’t worry, though: most people live in the same few-dozen metro areas. The biggest metro areas often have a variety of reasons to visit. If you
So, when it's appropriate and she’d feel comfortable sharing, figure out what area she lives in. If you happen to be in the area
You should also work your location into the conversation at some point. If you’re there yet, you can leave the door open for casually hanging out if your crush is ever in town.
As always, take it slow and don’t be weird. You need to build a rapport first before indicating that you’d want to meet up.
Advice for Women
DM him while having indicators on your profile that you are female. This could just include posting like a girl. Also like a few of his tweets, and yes, DM him! Men don’t receive much compliments, so praise goe far to indicate interest: “I really like your takes on [insert subject here], they’re insightful”.
Much of this guide applies to men as well, but we will be writing a specific guide for DM sliding men, too.
Final Remarks
Twitter is a huge website where people can get to know each other pretty well. Friendships and business relationships are forged there, not to mention lifelong romances. So be open to anything, and don’t go into any interaction expecting a specific final outcome – you’re going to make more friends and acquaintances than lovers. Go wherever the road takes you; that’s the true adventure of meeting new people.