Are you tired of Tinder not resulting in the dates you want? Are you tired of not matching with the prettiest girls? Well then it's time to enter my world, little dawg.
Welcome... to the World of Rizzcraft.
1. Choose the Right Profile Pictures
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. But on Tinder (or whatever app), a picture is actually worth one billion words.
Your pictures are 95% of the battle on Tinder. Nobody cares about your "funny" bio if you look boring or ugly. That's why this section is first: pictures will make or break your Tinder experience. So, get good photos of yourself.
But wait -- what are good photos? That's a good question. There are many ways a Tinder photo can be good:
- It shows you with friends
- It's a posed, professionally taken photo
- It's a candid photo of you doing something exciting
- It's a mysterious and vibey photo
- It shows off something about your life that a girl might share an interest with, like a tattoo or a pet.
A photo can't have all of these properties, so that means that you're going to want to round out your Tinder profile with different pictures that cover your bases. Include a variety of shots, such as a clear headshot, a full-body pic, and images of you enjoying your hobbies or traveling.
Avoid too many group photos where it's unclear which one is you: nobody wants to waste their time playing Where's Waldo, but one is fine. Avoid selfies because they make you look like a boring loner. Avoid filters because they look like you're hiding something.
2. Craft a Captivating Bio
Bios are mostly irrelevant -- mostly. But your can help or hurt your chances of getting dates.
Where pictures how you pique the interest of your potential matches, your bio can turn interest into a home run. So what are some rules to do your Tinder bio right?
- Tip 1: Keep it short. Nobody is going to waste time reading your wall of text. A long bio will also make you look like you're trying too hard.
- Tip 2: Consider listing off some interests. If you listed interest matches that of someone reading it, that could separate you from the chaff.
- Rule 3: Be funny if possible. If you're not funny, or you're lifting don't try too hard to force something. That's a check you won't.
Something like, "interests include horror movies and gaslighting" checks all three of these boxes. Or,
- "I like horror movies and I love your septum piercing."
- "Dating me is like dating a retard"
- "I look like if a Smiling Friends character was given flesh. Talk to me about conspiracy theories, EDM, history, MKULTRA"
That's what works for someone like me. Your vibe is different and so your profile will be a little different.
But the point is that you should show off boldness and openness. Your bio is an opportunity to give a brief insight into what your personality has to offer. Being timid won't help you. If you need help perfecting your bio, try using Wingman's Profile Roaster feature for expert analysis and suggestions.
3. Open in an Interesting Way
Once you have a match, you have a brief opportunity to earn a reply from them. You don't want to throw away this opportunity by saying "hey" or "how are you"; women get 100 of these messages a day, and you won't stand out.
You have two options here: the universal opener, or the tailored opener.
The universal opener is an interesting one, usually a question, that is likely to be interesting to any match and get you a reply. These are often questions. Sometimes they are statements that are intentionally puzzling so they demand clarification. For example:
- " what's something you've been obsessed with lately?
- "Your eyes tell me things about you"
The tailored opener is based on context clues from your match's photos and bio. If she's posing in front of her car, she's probably a car girl and is eager to talk about it. If she's cosplaying, you identifying the character and asking her how she put the costume together will get you quite far. If she has travel pictures, you'll score big points for identifying the locations and asking about her experience. And so on.
You don't need to mention her context clues like a robot. You can mix them with personaltiy and humor and boldness.
- "Nice Jynx cosplay. do you play League or are you just a fan of the show?"
- "nice Jynx. Do you also have mental illnesses?"
Both of these are valid. Mix your own style in, and test out different approaches. (Oh, and if you're into cosplay and want to get laid at a convention, treat this article like your Bible.)
If you're stuck and want some help with your opening on Tinder match, Wingman's Conversation Genius feature generates openers tailored to your match's profile. Upload pics of her and it will find even the smallest details and give relevant openers based on them.
4. Build Comfort With Conversation
The point of conversing on Tinder or Bumble isn't to get to know one another -- that's what meeting in real life is for. The point is to establish enough of a basic rapport so that both parties feel comfortable in meeting up for that first date.
After you get a response to your opener, either:
- Continue the same conversation that began with their opener
- Completely switch to a new conversation topic. Use context clues from their profile to ask an open-ended question about their life and interests.
Choose whichever is more interesting. It's really about feeling the vibe by feeling what's forced and what isn't. If something feels like you're just awkwardly begging for her attention, try a different strategy.
Throw in relevant tidbits about yourself when possible. Show off what you have in common, because this builds comfort.
Don't try to play it cool by being super aloof; that can come later. You want to show curiosity about your match at this stage and want to make them curious about you.
5. Get a Number and a Date ASAP
Nobody wants to spend time on Tinder -- they are there to meet people. So don't be shy about trying to make that happen.
Letting things drag on for too long can kill your chances of meeting up by killing the sense of freshness and mystery. This means you should aim to get a phone number and set a date in about six to ten exchanges.
Transition from the conversation as naturally as possible. If you're already talking about favorite places to go out, for example, a transition could look like:
You: "I know an awesome dive bar, we should go sometime" Her: "yeah I'd like that!" You: "What's your number? Mine is 212-555-4754"
If you don't have an easy transition to a date, that's fine. Once you have a basic rapport, you can just ask, "what are you up to this week?" She will tell you, and if she's in town and not totally swamped, ask: "wanna get a drink this week?"
Then exchange numbers. Don't text too much before meeting though. That can really kill the anticipation and make you look needy. You should only really text before a first date for planning purposes.
6. Reignite Dead Conversations
Sometimes you'll build a rapport but your match will disappear. That's OK! Not your fault! People disappear for all sorts of reasons. That means that it's also OK for you to try to restart an interaction after it's gone cold.
You want to do this without looking like you're begging for attention or butthurt, because both of those look very unattractive. So, a good universal convo restarter is:
- "did someone kidnap you"
- "wow you're actually shy"
- "so far this has been a great conversation" (this one is good for if she only sent one message to you)
This addresses the elephant in the room that she disappeared, but in a playful way. Another strategy is to riff on something already mentioned. If someone floated the idea of getting tacos together, you can say:
- "wow I guess you hate tacos"
- "Maybe you hate tacos lol"
You can replace tacos with whatever you've spoken about already: dive bars, cosplay, sushi, horor movies, whatever.
If one doesn't work, you cna
7. Learn from Your Experiences
Always have a presence of mind in dating. Dating is a skill and it can be sharpened and it can atrophy.
Dating is a learning process, and not every match will be a perfect fit. Embrace the journey and use each experience as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Reflect on what worked well and what didn't in your previous interactions, and apply those lessons to future matches.
Don't get discouraged by rejections or ghosting – it's all part of the dating game. Stay positive, focus on your personal growth, and keep putting yourself out there.